Joandisalovebooks proudly presents their first Author Interview and Spotlight including marriage proposal on with The Coolest Author Nicholas Tanek


A tribute to a different kind of Jersey girl.

In New Jersey during the summer of 1989, an awkward thirteen-year-old who was obsessed with weird music fell head-over-heels in love with the coolest post-punk rock girl he had ever met.

Nicholas was insecure. He was a daydreamer, wishing for romance when he was told, over and over, that he could not have it. He was a toy, pulled and pushed, wanted and used, dragged along yet held at a distance. Nicholas fell in with the out crowd, and loved every minute of it. He fell in love and got left behind, but not before she changed him forever.

This is an irrational, emotional love story for the teenager inside all of us.

The music is loud, and you’re about to be pushed into the pit.

What some people are saying…

“I should have put you in therapy.” – my mother

“I insist that you use my real name.” – Kevin

“Finally, a title that doesn’t scare people off. Not like the first book, The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself.” – Kim Gray, publicist


Author Info

Nicholas Tanek is an American ghostwriter from New Brunswick, New Jersey. He graduated from Rutgers University with a bachelor’s degree in English. Nicholas Tanek grew up as a New Jersey punk rock skater kid who lost himself in the early 90’s New York City rave scene. After years of drug addiction, he got his life together when he was reunited with Lynn, the love of his life, before she died at the age of 37. Instead of choosing negativity, he chose creativity. Losing Lynn inspired him to write his first book, The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself. There is quite a bit of kinky sex, drugs, and music in the life of Nicholas Tanek and he has some unique stories to tell.

Other Books by Nicholas Tanek


The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself

Buy Links Chipped Black Nail Polish

The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself


Stalker Links

Twitter @Nicholas Tanek


Facebook Author Page



Music Playlist for The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself on Spotify

Interview Links

Interview with Rene Polanco III – Rutgers University’s RUckmakers:

Interview with Love, Lust and Lipstick Stains. TKS – Radio Interview–nicholas-tanek-kathy-furlow-herrod

.foreword by Wendy Buck

Three months after I read Nicholas’ first book, The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself, my thirteen-year-old daughter, M, told me she was a lesbian. I did not know Nicholas before reading his first book, but he has since become a close friend and confidant. I shared M’s news with him and his response was that I had to write a foreword for his next book. I asked him for the correlation between her announcement and his book, because I didn’t get it. And I fought him on it. What does being gay have in common with being punk rock? He told me to think about the term in a non-music sort of way. What does it represent? And so I did what I always do. I went away and I thought about what he said. Chipped Black Nail Polish takes place when I was a teenager, during the height of punk rock. As so many of us did, I promised myself I would never grow up to be one of those adults who forgot where she came from. The music was important, but more than that, what punk rock stood for took center stage for me: the do it- yourself philosophy, questioning the norm, thinking critically, and pushing the boundaries of acceptability. But above all of those things, the most basic characteristic of punk rock is to be true to one’s self. But, I broke that promise. I lost sight of myself and became someone I thought I should be in the eyes of my peers. And so, Nicholas and his book came along shortly after I started questioning my decisions and choices in life. Not only have I benefited from his being such a good friend, but so too has my daughter. I raise M to be a free thinker and she is very much a free spirit. When I look at her, I am so proud of the young woman she is becoming. She will make her mark. And just like how she came out to the world, she will do it in her own way and in her own time. Do not rush this child, and do not expect her to do it the normal way. She is a weirdo. Nicholas has captured only one summer, three months, in this book. These months were pinnacle in defining him as an adult. He, too, was thirteen during the events that took place. I am so grateful that Kim entered his life, for however brief that time was. She taught him to live in acceptance of one’s self, to question everything, to stretch himself outside his perceived comfort zone. She taught him punk rock. She taught him it was okay to be a weirdo.

Meet Kim, a different kind of Jersey girl.

“Never apologize for being weird,” Kim once told me.



Will you marry me/Joanne?

Nicholas Tanek: No one ever proposed to me in an interview before. After my first marriage fell apart, I honestly do not think I will marry again. During the time of this interview in August of 2015, the Ashley Madison hack just happened. 30+ million people just had their profiles and personal info exposed. That’s insane. So, today is an interesting day to talk about marriage. Also, in many ways, I am still mourning Lynn.

Have you ever wanted to be anything other than a writer?

Nicholas Tanek: Yes. I wanted to be an actor and a film director. I would love to be a musician, but I am not a good musician. At the same time, I love music.

Who or What inspires you?

Nicholas Tanek: Many things inspire me. People inspire me. The love of my life, who passed away at the age of 37, inspired me to write The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself.Then, as a teenager, the very first woman I ever felt any kind of romantic love for inspired me to write Chipped Black Nail Polish. Right now, I am working on a new book that was inspired by the wonderful and weird people who I became friends with in the New Jersey / New York BDSM fetish community.

Are you working on any new writing projects at present? If yes, would you like to share?

Nicholas Tanek: My new project is about the New Jersey / New York BDSM fetish community and how it saved me. It is a sequel to The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself. After Lynn passed away, I went through a couple of months where I dealt with the loss and my grief by being a part of the scene. I met some wonderful and unlikely people who helped me cope. It’s a very sexual book, but it’s not a romance novel. Even though it deals with coping with loss and grief, I think it is a very funny book. Hopefully, people can connect with it because we all deal with loss and grief. Also, I think it will give people insight into the real BDSM fetish community. It’s realistic because it is true.

Do you enjoy hearing from readers?

Nicholas Tanek: I absolutely adore my readers and I urge them to reach out to me anytime. Jo, I would not be doing this interview right now if it were not for you and Isa Jones. I adore both of you! It is pretty fantastic that I wrote The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself and I have connected with so many people because of it. I mean, it’s not a huge financial success, but I do not write books for money. I write books for art. The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself has this really cool cult following. It went beyond my imagination. So, I welcome all messages from readers on Facebook, Twitter, etc.

How or why did you choose the titles of your books?

Nicholas Tanek: The titles are very important to me because I want them to stand out and be different from most books. I like to think that The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself is a title that stays with you and gets people’s attention. I like that there is a hardcore emotional feeling to the title and it forces the reader to think about what it means and does not mean. The people who get it and understand what I’m trying to do are cool. Then, of course, there are the people who refuse to read it just because of the title. I would rather have a memorable title than some boring, generic title. I do not want to name names, but there are some generic book titles out there. My other book, which is a prequel is titled Chipped Black Nail Polish. While that title is easier to market, I still like that if I search for it in Amazon Books, it will come right up. As for choosing a title, I usually think of the title while I am writing the book. Each one is a metaphor with multiple meanings. I like to think that I am writing something deep and from the heart. So, I always want my titles to be unique and far from typical.

Have you ever read what husbands or wives in the book world like to call Smut?

Nicholas Tanek: Sure! I always check out smut, but I know what it is. If you go in reading a book knowing it is smut, then you can get what you expect. I do not consider my work smut. It’s very sexual, but it is from the heart. At the same time, there’s nothing wrong with smut, just like there is nothing wrong with pornography.

Any last words?

Nicholas Tanek: Thank you Jo&isalovesbooks! I love what you are doing for authors. I am so thankful both of you are in my life!

Joandisalovebooks: As are we Nicholas. Thank you for not only being our first interview but giving up your writing time to respond to our questions. You are indeed The Coolest.



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